GET ANGRY!!!!!!!!! December 3, 2009
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Look, I’m all for groups like Marriage Equality (New York) – hell, I’m a member and I donate to them. And there are a number of groups that are great – like HRC for the political side of things. Or Lamda Legal for, well legal things. But I have a big problem right now with these “soft” groups.
There’s a rally tonight in Union Square. At first I thought – GREAT, a rally, let’s get together – yell – scream – shout – voice our opposition. But no. It’s a cute little get-together, where people are encouraged to bring their candles or their flashlights to stand together and show that marriage equality will happen in the United States. Okay, that’s fine. That’s the kind of rally some people want and need right now. But not me.
I want people to get as fucking ANGRY as I am. Let’s get on a bus, drive up to Albany and smash some fucking windows. Why don’t we fucking riot?
THE NEW YORK SENATE – THE STATE OF NEW YORK – HAS JUST TOLD EVERY SINGLE GLBT CITIZEN THAT THEY DO NOT DESERVE EQUAL RIGHTS IN THIS STATE. THEY HAVE MADE US, BY A VOTE OF THE SENATE, SECOND-CLASS CITIZENS. DOESN’T THAT PISS ANYONE ELSE OFF?????
So if anyone out there wants to get angry, and wants to get in the streets and make our anger heard, then I’m fucking with you. But I’m seriously not about to light a candle and sing Kumbaya. My days of being a soft-spoken gay/democrat are over. We need to grow some serious balls. The opposition is strong, and ruthless. Unless we start ACTUALLY fighting back, we’ll never get any fucking equality in this country!
thanking the supporters December 3, 2009
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As much as I think it is important to point out those who have voted against my equal rights in this state, I wanted to make sure to balance that by thanking those who worked towards granting me equal rights. So I wrote a quick email to my Senator: Senator Eric T. Schneiderman – never forget that Senators (and all public servants) are elected officials. You have the right to contact them, to have your voice heard. And it’s easy, got to the NY Senate homepage (just as easy in other states), and contact your Senator, just as I did.
Senator Schneiderman:
I wanted to thank you for supporting the bill that would have given me and my long-term partner equal rights in this state yesterday. I am appalled that it did not pass, yet I still want to applaud your efforts for standing up for my equality. It brings me great pride and satisfaction when I can believe in an elected official that I voted for. Please continue working towards equality for the LGBT community, as well as the many other positive issues you undertake. I appreciate your efforts, and your support.
In great sorrow, yet hopeful for a better tomorrow,
Christopher Dean
NY Senate: the democrats December 3, 2009
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Yesterday the NY Senate defeated a bill that would have granted me equal rights in this state (not the country, but it would have been a start). So now, even though I am not equal in the eyes of the state government, I’m still going to make my voice heard as much as possible. Here is a list of those Senators, who are all Democrats, that supported the bill (remember, NOT ONE REPUBLICAN supported the bill). And I want to thank each and every one of them for their support, and for the courage to stand up for equality:
Brian Foley (District 3)
Craig Johnson (District 7)
Malcolm Smith (District 14)
Toby Ann Stavisky (District 16)
Martin Malave Dilan (District 17)
Velmanette Montgomery (District 18)
John Sampson (District 19)
Eric Adams (District 20)
Kevin Parker (District 21)
Diane Savino (District 23)
Dan Squadron (District 25)
Liz Krueger (District 26)
Jose M. Serrano (District 28)
Thomas Duane (District 29)
Bill Perkins (District 30)
Eric Schneiderman (District 31) – my district!
Pedro Espada (District 33)
Jeffery Klein (District 34)
Andrea Steward-Cousins (District 35)
Ruth Hassell-Thompson (District 36)
Suzi Oppenheimer (District 37)
Neil Breslin (District 46)
David Valesky (District 49)
Antoine Thompson (District 60)
Every one of you should be commended for taking a stand FOR equality. I applaud you. And I think it should be pointed out that a majority of these Senators are from districts in New York City (that includes all five burroughs: Manhattan, Queens, Bronx, Brooklyn & Staten Island). Amazing how the area of the state that holds the most of the population AND supplies the majority of the tax revenue can still be outvoted by the the rest of the state.
On the other hand, there were 8 Democratic Senators who sided with the bigots and religious zealots. Allow me to point them out for you:
Shirley Huntley
(District 10 – in Queens, including South Jamaica)
FUCK YOU!!
George Onorato
(District 12 – in Queens, including Astoria)
FUCK YOU!!
Hiram Monserrate
(District 13 – in Queens, including Jackson Heights)
FUCK YOU!!
Joseph Addabbo, Jr.
(District 15 – in Queens, including Glendale & Woodhaven)
FUCK YOU!!
Carl Kruger
(District 27 – in Brooklyn, including Brighton Beach)
FUCK YOU!!
Ruben Diaz
(in the Bronx)
FUCK YOU!!
Darrel Aubertine
(District 48 – Northern New York State)
FUCK YOU!!
William Stachowski
(District 58 – Western New York State, including Buffalo)
FUCK YOU!!
get me through to the weekend: hunks du jour December 3, 2009
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and a hearty FUCK YOU to you as well, Albany December 2, 2009
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38 to 24
Not a single republican voted for the bill that would allow same-sex marriage (shocking)
38 to 24, really?
Why the fuck should I pay outrageous NY state tax? Why the fuck should I support Albany, who has never ONCE supported me since I’ve lived in this state? I’m sure those of you against this bill are all patting yourselves on the back, praising your bigot god, and supporting you fear-driven hate-mongering. Drink up. Go fuck your whores behind your wives back tonight to celebrate. Huff up some blow. Spend the states money. Do all the things you hypocrital fuckers do in the name of your righteousness. I hope you choke on your own bile.
Can you tell I’m angry? I thought I’d be disappointed if this bill was shot down. But nope. I’m just pissed off. I’m having a really hard time trying to figure out why I’m still a citizen of a country that doesn’t even view me as equal. True, some would say it takes people like me to get into the trenches and fight – like the blacks did for equality – like women did for the right to vote. But you want to know the biggest difference? Back during those fights there were no other options. You fought because you believed in your country, and you believed it could be the perfect place to love, raise a family and be happy.
Let me make this very clear – that country no longer exists. And there are MANY other options. Why keep fighting, and continue having my hopes and my face smashed back to the pavement when I could whisk my Civil Union Partner away to another country and have FULL RIGHTS? Why keep fighting a losing battle against an ignorant, white, religious majority that will NEVER allow me to have equality when I could just live?
That’s the question right now for me.
And until I figure out the answer – until Keith and I figure out the answer – I hope the ignorant, hate-filled, religious fucks that have decided my future in this state simmer in their own juices. There will come a time when you no longer have the power – that hope I cannot lose. It might be a long time coming, but it’s coming. And when you find yourself face down in the gutter, and I walk by, I won’t offer you my hand as I’ve done so many times in the past. I’ll piss in your fucking face and maybe take a dump on your chest. You’re nothing to me, just as you’ve proven I’m nothing to you. Keith and I will continue to safe-guard our lives, our family, our future against you because that is all we have left right now. That and a worthless Civil Union. So fuck you. And thanks.
NY senate debate on marriage equality December 2, 2009
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Senator Ruth Hassell Thompson: I believe in “total rights for all of the people I serve” – despite the fact that she’s voting against her church’s beliefs, and voting against those constituents that asked her to vote against same-sex marriage – she’s voting FOR it. I just listened to her give her speech on the floor of the NY Senate: “Madam President, I vote YES.”
Senator Craig Johnson: “This bill is about equality.” We cannot have a “separate but equal” system. “This bill is also about love. Marriage, historically, wasn’t about love. It was about property rights. It was about families uniting for power. And often times you hear about loveless marriages. This is about 2 individuals who love each other and want to express that love in a lifetime commitment, and don’t want to be treated seperate but equal. This bill does not force anyone to do anything. This bill only requires a clerk [of court] to issue a license. If this was an attack on our religious freedoms [I would] fight that attack. But that is not what this is about. This is about civil marriage.”
I’m still watching the live debate. Fingers crossed.
buttons, in memoriam December 2, 2009
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My Aunts Kathy & Buck’s dog Buttons has been a part of their family for years. And every morning, they’d walk him across the street to Grandma’s house, where he would spend the day. He would drive around Columbus with her – delivering AVON, visiting friends, going to the donut shop, running errands. He was her best friend.
Unfortunately Buttons got an infection in his liver, and they had to put him to sleep yesterday. Losing a loved one – even a pet – is never easy. And there’s nothing more heart-wrenching than hearing your Grandma crying on the phone because she’s hurting. Thankfully Grandma was there with him until the end, and I’m sure he was thankful for that. Now I need to hurry home and give Max a big hug and kiss.
bad romance December 2, 2009
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I’m usually late to the “it” things. And mostly because I detest just going along because everyone is doing it. But now – I’m totally on board with Lady Gaga. Honestly, the fact that she spoke at the Marriage Equality March on Washington was what put me over the edge…and then I started listening to her music to perk me up in the mornings. So picture it – East Village – 7:50am – I’m walking west from the kiosk at the corner of 1st Avenue & Houston, heading to my office, walking fast to the beat of “Bad Romance” – coffee in one hand, iPhone in the other, I’m bopping & dancing my way down Houston while mouthing the lyrics:
Rah-Rah Ah-ah-ha
Roma Roma-ma
Gaga Oh-la-la
Want your bad romance
advent calendar? December 2, 2009
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I LOVE the idea of an advent calendar. Nothing to do with religion for me (obviously!!) – I just really like the idea of a little surprise or gift each day of the month leading up to Christmas. And why not? For years I would just buy those calenders with little windows in them, and chocolate treats behind each window. A couple of years ago I found one that has little drawers – perfect for tiny gifts. And Keith stepped up and informed me he would fill the calendar every year. Aww…bring on the goodies! So he spent some time last night filling all the little drawers. But he doesn’t just fill them with treats (yesterday I got Now & Laters – today I got some Jelly Belly’s!), but there’s a “Christmas Task” for each day. Yesterday I had to give Max a BIG Christmas hug!!! Today I…oh…um…well…come to think of it, some of the tasks I probably won’t be sharing on my blog. 
But as a hint, I have to do something in time to the song “Carol of the Bells” later today. That’s all I’m saying.
But here’s the calendar as Keith was putting it together:
my best pal, Grandpa December 2, 2009
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My Grandpa and our matching green turtlenecks
